Michelle Mintz

I know something good about you

I’d like to share a poem I recently discovered that’s made an impact on my life: ”I Know Something Good About You.” Wouldn’t this old world be better, If the folks we meet would say,“I know something good about you!”And then treat us just that way? Wouldn’t it be fine and dandy, If each kiss was tender and true, And carried with it this message,“I know something good about you!” Wouldn’t life be lots more happy, If the good that’s in us all, Was the only thing about us That people bothered to recall? 

Wouldn’t it be nice to practice That fine way of thinking too?You know something good about me And I know something good about you Author Unknown I was working with a client last week who wasreally struggling with a breathing issue. We physically worked with her diaphragm and lungs. But the core issue that was creating this challenge turned out to be a moment in her life from back in 4th grade.  In a nutshell, it was about changing schools and feeling judged by the other girls at her new school.  

What the client discovered with a little bit of honesty and looking inward was that she was actually the one judging the other girls as a way to protect herself from how she was feeling inside; from her perceived rejection. And this pattern had carried on into adulthood. So as she became aware of the issue her tissues opened up and unwound and she also opened up to a new way of looking at the situation, she decided she was going to create a new way of being with people. This reminded me of the message in the poem.  “You know something good about me and I know something good about you.” She chose something like this as her new motto- to find the good in all people.    What do you think it will be like now when she connects with people from this place? From a place of openness and curiosity? Let’s face it. We all do it. We all judge others. But next time you catch yourself doing it, I invite you to say the mantra, “I know something good about you.” And watch how the interaction changes.

Add comment February 3rd, 2009

Be Your Own #1 Fan?

Happy New Year!

I know everyone has their own New Year’s resolutions to focus on.  Well mine is to spend more time focusing on my own self-care.  This includes ways to nurture myself not only physically but emotionally and spiritually as well.

Before vacation, I had an interesting, eye opening experience related to self care.  One of my clients came in and said that she was constantly zapped of energy and she didn’t know what else she could possibly be doing for herself.  She was exercising, eating healthy, going for acupuncture and coming to see me for CranioSacral Therapy. 

As we worked, we uncovered the core issue: She was always beating herself up with a critical, judgemental attitude about herself.  Now from a place of understanding the issue, we were able to explore what it would be like to change the way she was being with herself.

We talked about what it would be like to find a place of love, encouragement and even celebration for who she is and what she does get accomplished.

Wow, wast his enlightening for both of us!  We often think of self-care as taking care of ourselves physicaly. Yet the kindest way to nurture ourselves is to be our own best friend-our own number 1 fan.

So in addition to cleaning out your refrigerator or clutter this January, I challenge you to clean out your mind. Notice how often your critical thoughts and judgements come up.

Maybe your’ll notic a pattern or theme around your thoughts.  Then you can replace it with a positive affirmation or thought instead! 

Add comment January 6th, 2008